FAQ: Do you get lonely travelling solo?
I’d be lying if I said I didn’t. I’ve written about solo travel and some of the downsides to travelling alone. But I have learnt that being able to be lonely is actually an important thing. Being able to be alone, not reliant on others for your entertainment, energy or life, is one of the biggest blessings. Not needing reassurance from others, or validation from external sources, but being truly at peace with yourself; body, mind and soul.
So yes, travelling solo does has its ups and downs, and at times feeling lonely is extremely pervasive. But that uncomfortable, unsettling feeling has also helped me grow and develop within myself. And that alone time is what I think made me learn most about myself and my true strength and character. Because what we think and feel when no one else is around is what truly defines us, is it not?
On the upside, travelling alone opens doors that would be otherwise hidden if you were travelling with a companion or group. It can make you more approachable, so you can be more likely to find yourself with NEW friends. It teaches you to become independent and to find things out for yourself. You may find yourself in situations which require you to use your knowledge and senses, to find alternative solutions to problems. This can be something as small as trying to understand a bus timetable or the local currency, attempting to order a meal without chilli, trying to communicate with someone in a different language or even losing your baggage at the airport. When there is no one there for you to rely on or to seek advice and support from, it’s incredible how swiftly you are able to learn, adapt and actually become entirely self-reliant!
Self-reliance really is one of the most treasured lessons I have learned, and am still learning in life – and one lesson I am eternally grateful for.
I have always believed that there are two types of learning or education;
1. Institutional education, such as school or university, in which you learn certain things a certain way. It provides you with skills, facts and information.
2. Universal education, such as travelling, personal experience and acquired knowledge. This is where you problem-solve as necessary, learn, grow and develop. It’s not about remembering facts or getting a high score, it’s about acquiring knowledge one step at a time and using that knowledge to help not only yourself, but also others.
I firmly believe solo travel has been the best way for me to gain this second sort of education. And I definitely recommend it to anyone or everyone who may have thought about it before. Remember though, solo travel is NOT for everyone, and it doesn't have to be. It doesn’t make you a ‘better’ traveller if you do it alone. All that matters is you are having fun and enjoying yourself, whether that is when you’re solo or with a bunch of people!
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Love and light,
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