Dream And Believe
Dream, Believe, Create, Achieve
I often get asked whether I believe we should rebel, or go against society, our parents and our friends, to follow our dreams. Should we do this rather than ‘living the (boring) life that is expected of us’. Being asked this brings up a few things for me;
We should dream!
“Without leaps of imagination or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities. Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning.”
These words by Gloria Steinem tug at something embedded deep within me that is connected to my soul. When I first heard this quote it instantly resonated with me, and I was inspired while simultaneously being disappointed that I had never been able to summarise the concept so simply myself.
I am a dreamer. A planner. And every so often I am a do-er; and I am able to execute my plans, dreams and ambitions. I get to feel a sense of achievement by actually finishing something I have started.
I’m guilty of dreaming (like a lot of people) about escaping to somewhere beautiful;
- Being surrounded by unfamiliar smells,
- Sharing a place and time with unfamiliar people,
- Tasting foreign foods,
- Sighting intriguing animals and
- Wandering around interesting sites I have never seen or even knew existed.
- Where no one knows my name, and
- There is no such concept as deadlines.
I could almost say I have the ‘dream’ job, but I am a realist. There are always going to be deadlines! But I can plan for a vacation – now, that would tick all of the above boxes!
There's no such thing as a 'boring dream'
Just because we dream about doing something familiar, something that has been done by generations before us, something that society approves of – it doesn’t make it boring, mundane, or unimportant. One of my biggest, vivid and most precious dreams to me is one day being able to tuck a couple of kids into bed, read them a story (or several), feel their little arms embrace me, and hear the words “Goodnight Mummy”.
We should be willing to actively chase our dreams, not passively follow them!
I don’t believe that if we simply ask the Universe for things, that it will provide them for us. I would like to think this is the case, but unfortunately common sense gets the better of me and I am unable to believe these words. However, I do know that psychologically when we believe we can achieve something, it becomes a possibility. It won’t just be gifted to us though, we will have to work for it. But the belief and even visualisation of achieving or attaining that goal can open up doors which allow us to possess it. This may just be because once we accept it, our subconscious then alters our thoughts and behaviours and directs them toward attaining that goal, creating or inviting in positive active energy and faith in other energies assisting you.
Many people will say I am lucky to be doing what I do for work. The things I have done up until now have made it possible – not just luck. The money I have saved since my first job at 13 years old, the ‘trade’ and academic skills I have learned at university; the skills I learned, along with the community spirit and ethics instilled in me as a volunteer lifesaver, the sports I played, the experiences and encounters I have shared with friends, family and strangers, life experiences, the opportunities I have made and those I have taken (even when almost crippled by anxiety of stepping outside my comfort zone). There are too many things to mention them all, but everything in my life has brought me to this point.
“You may say I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one.
I hope someday you'll join us.
And the world will live as one.”
― John Lennon
Living in a world with health, happiness and harmony is my ultimate dream, my plan. I can work towards building it in my personal life, as well as working toward making sure that what I do in my career contributes to the health, happiness and harmony of others. None of us are an island in this world, it is that we are so connected in so many ways (both big and small) that makes life so worthwhile. We are all unique and different to each other and that is what makes each of us so valuable in contributing to and supporting others’ health, happiness and harmony. No job, life-role, cause, charity, education or culture is better, or more important, than another.
It’s not ‘what’ we do, but rather that we do it.
As an individual, it isn’t possible for me to be everything, or to do everything that is needed to right all the wrongs in the world. But by being the ‘best me I can be’, I believe I can make a difference. We all can. And I think we should all try.
These are some of my tips for being the best ‘you’ that you can be:
Dream: Allow yourself to be curious, to think outside of yourself, to aspire and to plan. Allow your dreams to grow, change and evolve.
Develop yourself: Develop every aspect of yourself, build on potential and natural gifts, but also work at the things that don’t come so easily.
Learn: Get everything you can from your formal and informal education. Learn how to educate yourself and learn (that’s a really valuable skill). Open your mind to new ideas and learn from your mistakes too.
Step outside of your comfort zone: Try new things just because! Try difficult things, practice, practice and practice again. Make an effort and take risks.
Build your confidence and self-awareness: Discover and debate your values with yourself. Follow your heart and mind, not someone else’s. Seek others who inspire you rather than influencing you. Keep finding out who you are and keep being you!
Make and take opportunities: Expect to work hard. Don’t expect your dream life to be gifted to you.
Love and light,
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